Catchy title, am I right? This popped into my head as a concept as I was starting to explore multiple sides of unicorndom at the same time. In true nerd fashion, I brought this topic to my polyamory group and clumsily tried to weave it into the topic which was about building community.
So hear me out! Cause I’m pretty good at weaving ideas together. What I got most out of the conversation was that the language of unicorn ‘hunting’ is that it incites a certain type of loss of ethics in a way. An object to kill and potentially hang the head of its carcass on your wall. An ultimate objectification! So the term isn’t really instilling any confidence in the community that there are ethics involved.
If one were to use it within the context of a relationship, it could be a fun, kinky kind of objectification. But really, who even decided that this was the term? Everyone recognizes it and if you can think of a better one please post it in the comments! I asked AI and some of my favorite synonyms provided were: triad recruiting, seeking a guest star, and couple’s threesome quest.
My theory, and yes I told you we would get there, is that the moniker ‘unicorn hunting’ is a way to further divide an already divided minority. The anti-thesis to community. How do we deal with oppression? Oppress others! It’s the Great Equalizer. By recognizing this as a societal norm I can release the shame attached to and can identify the ways in which I might be discriminating against others to cope. Is propagating the term ‘unicorn hunting’ part of my own participation?
It is my desire to be intentional with the language I use and recognize the ways in which I may be stepping on tiny, and not so tiny, delicate plants that are growing around me if I am not.
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